Human Communication: Relationship

Hi !
So, today we've studied about Relationship.

Let's start off with the relationship stages.

1. Contact
- the fist impression stage.
- perceptual and interactional contact takes place here.
Perceptual : 5 senses are involved.
Interactional : the first point of the contact.
eg. " Helo."

2. Involvement
-when closer and tighter bond is formed.
-testing and intensifying takes place here.
Testing : asking out.
eg. " Do you like orange?"
Intensifying : amount of commitment towards the another one.
eg. dating, gathering

3. Intimacy
-when you get more comfortable and familiar to the others.
-interpersonal commitment and social bonding takes place here.

4.Deterioration
-when bonds weaken off.

5. Repair
-trying to get things right in order to get back to usual.
-interpersonal and intrapersonal repairs take place here.
Interpersonal repairs : you talk about the problems
Intrapersonal repairs : consider changing self

6. Dissolution
-when bond breaks off.
-interpersonal and social separation takes place here.
Interpersonal separation : not meet anymore
Social separation : avoid each other// back to "single" status

There are 6 Relationship Theories :
1. Attraction Theory

- we all attracted to the others according to these few factors.
* similarity - same taste, beliefs, ideas
* proximity - people who are close to you
* reinforcement - people who reinforce your life and personality
* physical attractiveness and personality : attracted by people's inner & outer beauty

2. Relationship Rules Theory

* Friendship rules :
Normal friend, Best friend and Acquaintance have different boundaries to respect.
* Romantic rules :
This is for couples and lovers. Different culture have different practice.
* Family rules :
Different roles has different rules to follow.
* Workplace rules :
Different position has different rules to abide to.

3. Relationship Dialectics Theory
* Closeness and Openness
* Autonomy and Connection
* Novelty and Predictability

4. Social Penetration Theory