Jealousy & Friends and Lovers

Hey all!
Today we will be proceeding with the last few relationship theory that are left and chapter 9 ! :D so let's goooo.

5. Social exchange theory
- rewards > cost
- brings huge benefits

6. Equity theory
-rewards = cost
-more on forming a professional relationship.

Everything has its pros and cons same goes to interpersonal communication. The cons of interpersonal communication is it causes jealousy to occurs. Jealousy usually happens because of envy.There are a few types of jealousy:

Cognitive jealousy 

-suspicious thinking
Eg. When your friend went out and didnt call u along. 

Emotional jealousy

- seeing someone you like do things you dont like
Eg. When your boyfriend gets so close with other girls 

Behavioral jealousy

-responses / behavioral changes that cause by jealousy
Eg. Check girlfriend's phone when she stops talking to you more

Other than jealousy, it can also cause relationship violence. It happens due to the poor maintainance of interpersonal.Some of the symptoms are  like physical abuse, verbal or emotional abuse and sexual abuse. 

Now, let's proceed with chapter 9. This chapter we are going to talk about friends,lovers and families.

We will start the post with friends. What is friends? Friends are people who have mutual positive relationship with each other like 'i like you,you like me' . 

There are 3 types of friendship :
1.reciprocity
-loyalty, willing to sacrifice
Eg. Close friends

2.receptivity
- one give one take
Eg. Patient and doctor

3.association
- friendly relationship, no commitment needed
Eg. Neighbours, classmates.

Why do people seek for friendship?
1. Utility purpose
- to have someone to help to pursue future

2. Affirmation
- to have someone to recognize self achievement

3. Ego support
- to have someone to give encouragement

4. Stimulation
- to have someone who expand worldview

5. Security
- to have someone who wouldn't hurt you

There are 3 stages of friendship :

1. Initial contact
- impressions formed

2. Casual friendship
- spend time together

3. Close and intimate relationship
- a very close form of togetherness

There are also factors that affect the value of the friendship.
1. Cultural
2. Gender difference
3. Technology

There are 6 types of love styles.

1.eros - romantic love
2.ludus - playboy love
3.agape - selfless love
4.pragma - materialistic love
5.mania - obsession love
6.storge - friend's love

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